Monday, 30 April 2012

Sex homework

It rained all afternoon. On my way home I left my bike outside a shop. Coming back with my shopping I was confused to see I still had my bike lock in my hand. Luckily bike was still there - a near miracle considering the area, although maybe not given the scruffiness of my bike. I felt as flat as the daffodils and ragged like the tulips in my windowbox.

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e[lust] edition 35 is here!

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Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #36? Start with the newly updated rules, come back May 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!
~ Top 3 ~
Strangers in a barShe sensed him move along the bar, he took the seat next to her his knee brushing her thin stockings as he took in her dress and the way it waved over her curvaceous figure.
Dealing with Abuse in Our CommunitiesWe’re only human (yes, dominants ARE human) and mistakes happen. But what you do with the information that you’ve harmed someone is key.
Special RequestWalking to his desk, he pulled off his belt and put it on the left side, then pulled out a paddle and put it in the middle and then a cane on the right hand side.
~ Featured Post (Picked by Lilly) ~
What Keeps Us GoingWe co-existed, and we were generally happy with each other, but we were dysfunctional. You know how people talk about becoming roommates rather than lovers? Guilty.
~ e[lust] Editress ~
Sex Toy Journalism: Seeking the Truths of Silicone via Flame Testing and Confronting ManufacturersWhy flame test? “Pure” silicone, be it food grade or medical grade, shouldn’t melt or deform under the heat of an open flame from a disposable lighter or match – a fact you’ll see demonstrated in the video
Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
Comparisons Part Three
Cosmic Vibrations
Momentum: Reflections and Impressions
My Feminine Fountain is Finally Flowing (I squirted for the 1st time!)
PolyAnna’s Musings: Attraction
Q&A Number 1: Play Partners
Sexual Bucket List (and a Brief Diatribe on My Self Censorship Hang Up)
The “Dry Rut/Root”! Non-sex?
Intolerance – Contraception Debate, Religious Intolerance, & Grumpy Cooper
Erotic Writing
Come Together
Encounter in the Spa
Good Bad Sex
I needed him there and then
Make Me Cum
Play Lady Play
Quitting While Ahead
Rampage – YSL’s birthday treats
the Confidante and I film ourselves
The first time I slept with the Girl in the Red DressTiming Is Everything
We drink each other’s cum
Kink & Fetish
Assignment from M
Fucked Raw
Foot fetishists, come talk to me
Make Me
Nice vs. Good
On “Closure.”
Practicing My Religion
Please Fuck Me
Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor
Annie fucking Sprinkle
Voice and the Author
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Sunday, 29 April 2012

Something to look forward to

Despite the recent disappointment of Tim having a girlfriend and the challenge of Virgil meeting up with Sarah (of which, more soon), I do have one card up my sleeve: Alan, the giver of the bruise at the recent play party. We have a date this week.

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Saturday, 28 April 2012

Virgil prepares to get back in the saddle and I know all about it

New communications strategy: share as much as possible. Unless you are truly disinterested in what your partner gets up to on their solo adventures, don't ask don't tell policies create massive opportunities for paranoia and insecurity to fester. An open relationship is something you do together.

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Thursday, 26 April 2012

Some slight changes

As of today, you might notice some changes in style and nomenclature on this blog. Eight hours, two tingling hands and one numb buttock later, I have expunged the annoying use of initials and given everyone proper names. I should have done it ages ago. Apart from that, everything remains intact. Keep reading.

x RH
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Honesty and old flames

In the uneasy knowledge that Virgil could this instant be contacting Sarah to announce the end of our break and request the resumption, should she wish it (of COURSE she will!), of their torrid connexion, I decide to be first out of the blocks. Actually I cheat. Sometime last week I sent the following text: "Satisfy my curiosity about something. Is it true that men never delete old phone numbers? If you can tell me my name I'll take that as a yes ;)" Sophisticated, aren't I? I think that's what they call t-ex-ting.

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Tuesday, 24 April 2012

The contract

I don't know how other people do it, but Virgil and I now have a four-page document of rules and policies governing how our open relationship is going to operate from now on. The document has taken several weeks to write and agree upon. Unbelievably, this feels like progress. As of today, officially, the break is over.

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Friday, 20 April 2012

Two invitations: one good, one bad

This morning there are two new messages in my Facebook inbox. The good one is from Alan, the giver of Saturday night's bruise. He would like to see me again. Excellent news! I would like to see him again too and find out more about him. I hope there's enough connection besides the physical one for some nice sex and hopefully kink to happen. The other one is from Voracious C.

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Wednesday, 18 April 2012


I tell Deirdre what happened at the play party - about playing on my own and giving permission for Virgil to play with Voracious C. It's a satisfying vignette and she asks me to describe in more detail how I felt at the time. I say: Well, when Virgil asked me to describe what I had been doing in front of the others I felt annoyed actually and defensive. It was cheeky of him but he always likes to hear about my solo adventures in as much detail as possible. It turns him on.

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Monday, 16 April 2012

We attend a play party. I leave with a bruise and some sense of progress

At a party on Saturday night I went off and played on my own. Got tied up and spanked and gave a very satisfying cock-sucking to someone. It was good - not earth-shattering but I enjoyed it! In the mirror this morning I was pleased to see a bruise on my left buttock.

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Friday, 13 April 2012

Talk to me, lover

Er, oh... cringe. I recently alluded to a terrible, ongoing disagreement about sex that Virgil and I had been having. And actually, even though it severely ESCALATED over the last week and things were said that had previously only been thought, it was a point of tension in our relationship for a long time. Now the terrible, ongoing disagreement is no more. If I'm honest I would prefer to simply slink away and drop the subject, but I think it's worth a coda. I'd like to think I can admit when I've been wrong about something.

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Saturday, 7 April 2012

Love and Fear

Last week, in session with Deirdre, I say: To me, love is the most important thing in the world. It's the only thing that matters in the end. I believe in love and will love simply for love's sake, because it is good. This is not a sentiment one would expect to hear from a harlot but even at my most misanthropic and curmudgeonly it is true.  I don't want to live with a closed heart, even if it means having my heart broken every day.

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Sunday, 1 April 2012


I meet up with a very old friend and her daughter. I am apprehensive almost to the point of cancelling. Andrea and I were teenage best buddies but she's really hard work these days. She rarely comes to the city and swears she no longer feels safe. Andrea jokes relentlessly about how her family drive her mad and confound her. She just can't seem to say anything positive or pleasant. I want to say: Well if you really feel like you're such a martyr to everyone that's a problem. What I say is: Why don't you change what you do?

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